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For a preliminary understanding of OCPD:
- Dr. Rhoda Kahn explains about OCPD in a short video clip.
- Warning Signs Youre Dating a Loser (controlling or abusive partner) by Joseph Carver, Phd.
- PsychCentral gives a short but complete overview on the condition.
- Great overview on Law Officer.com site of what its like to have a working or other kind of relationship with a Perfectionist Personality.
- Another overview on Cafe Mom.
- OCD vs. OCPD - one post as part of a blog by a therapist.
- Helpguide.org on Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships - you may be surprised to find youre already in one.
- Short overview on Out of the Fog website which includes links to support boards and other resources.
- Dont Break The Rules! overview on Health Tree.com.
- Overview on NIH (National Institutes of Health.)
- OCD or OCPD - Neat Freaks and Obsessive Compulsive Cleaning on Suite 101.
- The Body/Mind Education Center on the Fight or Flight Response.
- Depression Perception on OCPD as an anxiety disorder.
- How To Recognize a Controlling Person on Wikihow.
- Is Your Spouse Controlling? on Divorce 360.
- Counselling Resource describes symptoms of Anankastic Personality here, with additional links to references.
- Brain Physics - When Everything Has to be Just Right.
- Lifescript.coms Perfectionism Facts.
- Short blog by Simone Hoermann, PhD.
- Psychology Today on the Pitfalls of Perfectionism.
- Eight Ways to Spot Emotional Manipulation on Cassiopaea.
More in depth:
- Too Perfect - a summarized view of subjects covered in this excellent book.
- The Right Stuff by Steven Phillipson, PhD goes into great depths about the various facets of OCPD.
- Wikipedia's current take on OCPD.
- Joseph Carver, PhD on Love and Stockholm Syndrome: The Mystery of Loving an Abuser.
- Encyclopedia or Mental Disorders - includes some controversial claims regarding the cause of this condition.
- Dr. Dan Bochner on OCPD - good analysis, somewhat rosy prognosis for treatment.
- When the Going Gets Tough, The Perfectionist Takes Control by Steven Phillipson, PhD on recognizing signs of OCPD among adolescents and young adults.
On hoarding:
- International OCD Foundation s Hoarding Site.
- NPRs Hoarding: When Too Much Stuff Causes Grief.
Advice/Treatments
for those who are dealing with a Perfectionist Personality
- Verbal Self-Defense by Suzette Haden Elgin, PhD (author of You Can't Say That To Me!) explains and gives examples of many great techniques, including the boring baroque response.
- Out of the Fog on setting Boundaries.
- Wikihow's got a great article on how to deal with people with personality disorders.
- Psych Centrals listing of treatment options.
- Advice for recognizing and dealing with verbal abuse (which can often escalate to physical abuse) by Patricia Evans.
for those with OCPD
- Overcoming Perfectionism on the Livestrong site.
- The Perfect Trap on Psychology Today - a guide to giving up the unattainable.
- Dr. Phil gives advice to Controllers/Perfectionists - one page plus additional links.
- Psychology Today on What Flavor of Perfectionist are you? (Adaptive or maladaptive.)
- LiveScience - The Dark Side of Perfectionism Revealed on how perfectionism is not just bad for relationships, but for physical health.
- On Talk Therapy changing the brain.
Other advice
- On selecting a divorce attorney. If you have decided to divorce your OCPD spouse, and your attorney is either unaware of personality disorders, or unwilling to be educated about them, your OCPD spouse will chew him up for lunch without needing a a napkin. In order to protect yourself and your children, if any, choose wisely.
Support Groups
- Free Forums - for both those with OCPD and those who have a loved one with OCPD. (Many members used to belong to a similar group on MSN, now defunct.)
- Forumotion - for those with OCPD or Anankastic Personality only.
- Out of the Fog - a support site for Significant Others of people with all types of Personality Disorders, including but not limited to OCPD.
- Yahoo Group - for both those with OCPD and their loved ones.
- FaceBook - look for the Perfectly Awful community page on FB, and fan if confidentiality/privacy is not a problem for you.
- National Alliance on Mental Illness aka NAMI, which offers support groups, family education programs, literature and advocacy for those with mental illnesses and disorders.
Blogs:
- OCPD - Scattered Thoughts from the Front Lines - by the author of this site.
- Bashing Perfect - an active blog by a Perfectionist on battling OCPD.
- Tetanus Burger - two sisters cleaning up after their OCPD father (very funny- great pics!)
- My Mother-in-Law Is Still Sitting Between Us - pics & stories about cleaning a hoarder's house - great writing and amazing pictures.
- Educating Mel - Notes On How To Live In The World (With OCPD) and Be Loved
Techie-Type Reading:
- Personality Subtypes Summary by Theodore Millon, PhD.
- NIH 2004 Study - indicates 7.88% of the general US population with OCPD; over 14.79% with at least one personality disorder.
- CNS Spectrums on Whether OCPD belongs in the OCD Spectrum.
- CNS 2004 Study re: occurrence of OCPD in those with OCD.
What's It Like to have OCPD? Here's one take:
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Frequently Asked Questions
How can you tell if someone is a Perfectionist Personality? How Can I Help or Make my Perfectionist Personality Partner Change? Why does she seem relaxed and tolerant around others, and so hard on me at home? What are the Keys to Living
with a Perfectionist Personality?
How Do I Rediscover Who I Am?
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